How to use a butt plug

Butt plugs are a great way to explore anal play. They’re for everyone who wants to experiment with anal play.

This is a question we’re asked frequently, and given our chosen name, we decided it was important to spend some time delving into this.

What is a butt plug?

A butt plug (also called an anal plug, bum plug, booty plug, ass plug, or, if you prefer, an arse plug!) is an adult toy that you place into your rectum for the purposes of sexual pleasure. The typical shape of a butt plug is like an ace of spades, with a flared base for safety.

There are lots of different types of butt plugs, including:

Beginner butt plugs: These are compact, smooth, and perfect for first-timers. Think training wheels for anal toys.
Large butt plugs: These are for the experienced and brave. Stretchy fun, but always start slow!
Tail plugs: These combine a butt plug with a playful tail.
Vibrating butt plugs: Adds buzz for extra pleasure. Great for solo or partnered play.
Inflatable butt plugs: Expands after insertion for a fuller, customisable feel.
Thrusting butt plug: Simulates in-and-out motion. Some even include vibration—talk about multitasking.
Remote control butt plugs: App-controlled or remote-enabled for hands-free fun or public teasing.

It’s easy to use a butt plug when you know how, but there is a little bit of technique involved to do it safely.

For this, we will need to explore this area in more detail, and there are some really important things to know before you explore.

First, the anus is not self-lubricating. This means that inserting a plug into your rectum without lubrication can cause pain or injury. We strongly advise using a bodysafe lube, gel or oil to help insert the toy.

Second, things can get lost up there. When putting an object into your rectum, we strongly recommend using a toy with a flared base to prevent it from moving upwards into your intestines. This can also result in serious injury and will likely require a trip to A&E for removal.

Third, cleanliness is important. Let’s talk directly – poop comes through the rectum. Of course, this is a natural process. There isn’t anything wrong with inserting a toy into this area, but we advise following some basic hygiene practices to ensure happy and healthy play for you and any other partners.

Why do people wear butt plugs?

Because it feels gooooood! The anus has millions of nerves, making it an extremely pleasurable area to stimulate for sexual pleasure.

It’s a common misconception that only gay men enjoy anal play. The truth is that anyone with an anus can experience pleasure from stimulating the nerves in this area.

They can be used in lots of ways. Some people enjoy wearing them during sex, or during foreplay. Others enjoy wearing them before anal sex. If you’re playing solo, you can insert a butt plug for your own enjoyment while masturbating.

Some people enjoy the somewhat taboo nature of anal play, and this can be extra thrilling. Remember, there isn’t anything wrong with experimenting with what feels good in your body.

It’s important to point out that people of different genders experience anal pleasure differently.

For men, the stimulation of the prostate by an anal plug can be intensely enjoyable. Women can get enjoyment from the sense of fullness and the stimulation of nerves in the anal area.

Try a butt plug and find out what all the fuss is about for yourself 😉

How to put in a butt plug

If you’re curious about trying a butt plug, hopefully we’ve convinced you to give it a go! Now that you’ve got it and you’ve ready to lose your butt plug virginity, here’s the steps you should follow to use it safely and effectively.

Relax: You need to be relaxed in order to safely insert the toy. Take a warm shower, make sure you’ve got plenty of time and most importantly, have your lube to hand
Prep: Some people like to use an anal douche to prep before anal play. It’s not necessary, but might help you feel more relaxed
Start small: If it’s your first time, start off with just a finger. Wash your hands, apply a generous amount of lube and gently press against your ass. It should feel enjoyable – if not, give yourself more time to relax. Watch porn, masturbate – whatever feels good!
Insert the tip: Once you’ve got a finger inside and it feels pleasurable, you’re ready for the plug. Lube it up again (don’t spare it, use more than you think you’ll need). Gently bring it to your anus. You might need to tilt it at different angles to find out what works best
Breathe out: Because your sphincter muscle has an important role to play in keeping your anus closed, pushing something in can feel really strange. Try to relax the sphincter by breathing out slowly and pushing in at the same time
Pop it in: The final bit is putting the plug in place. With the flared base, your sphincter muscle will fit neatly around its neck
Enjoy! Do whatever feels good to you
Remove: To remove the plug, take it slow and gentle. Don’t pull it out hard. Relax your muscles, breathe out, and gently pull it out
Wash: Clean the plug with warm soapy water and dry
Store: To maximise the life of your toy, we recommend storing it in a soft cloth bag, somewhere clean and dry

How to wash a butt plug

We can distil this section down to two steps: use soap to clean your toys and your ass will thank you! Lots of soap = happy butt. But let’s discuss it in more detail.

Cleaning a butt plug properly is essential for your health and the toy’s longevity. After every use, you should rinse the butt plug under warm water immediately to remove any residue.

Then, wash it thoroughly with unscented, antibacterial soap and warm water, making sure to clean any grooves or textures carefully. For textured toys like an anal plug tail or a vibrating butt plug, using a soft brush or cloth can help get into small crevices.

After washing, rinse the toy again to ensure no soap remains, then pat it dry with a clean towel or let it air dry on a clean surface. For deeper cleaning, especially with non-porous materials like silicone, glass or stainless steel, you can sterilise the butt plug by boiling it in water for about three to five minutes.

Toy cleaner sprays, commonly found in online sex shops, are another safe and effective option, particularly for delicate materials.

If you’re cleaning an electronic toy, like a vibrating butt plug or a remote control butt plug, never submerge the motor part. Instead, wipe it carefully with a damp cloth and mild soap, and optionally disinfect control surfaces with 70% isopropyl alcohol wipes.

Avoid using harsh household cleaners or storing the toy while it’s still damp, as these practices can damage the toy or pose health risks.

Once your butt plug is completely clean and dry, store it in a breathable cloth pouch to protect it from dust and bacteria. Avoid using plastic bags or letting different sex toys touch each other during storage, as some materials can chemically react.

Finally, if any doubt, check the manufacturer’s instructions.

How to keep a butt plug in

Keeping a butt plug in place comes down to the right combination of size, shape and technique. Here are some tips:

Choose the right size and shape: A plug with a narrower neck and a flared base helps it stay securely in place. Make sure it’s not too small (which can slip out) or too large (which may be uncomfortable).
Use plenty of lube: A good water-based or silicone-based lubricant makes insertion smoother and more comfortable—but don’t overdo it or it may become too slippery to stay in.
Relax and take your time: Being calm and relaxed makes your muscles more receptive. Take deep breaths and go slow during insertion.
Move mindfully: Sudden movements or strenuous activity might cause it to shift. If you’re wearing it for a while, try to stay aware of your body.
Strengthen your pelvic floor: Practicing Kegel exercises can help improve muscle control and retention.
Don’t skip the base: Always use a plug with a flared base to prevent it from going in too far.

Are butt plugs dangerous?

Butt plugs aren’t dangerous when used correctly. They’re designed for safe, pleasurable use, as long as you follow a few basic guidelines.

Always choose one made from body-safe, non-porous materials and make sure it has a flared base to prevent it from slipping in too far.

Use plenty of lube to avoid discomfort or injury, and start with a small size if you’re new. Clean it thoroughly before and after use, and listen to your body.

If something doesn’t feel right, stop. With proper care and attention, butt plugs can be a perfectly safe and enjoyable part of your experience.

And remember: it’s not “weird,” it’s wonderful 😉

Frequently asked questions

Do women like butt plugs?
Some do! Everyone’s preferences vary, but many women enjoy the added sensation and fullness they provide.

What’s the best way to insert a butt plug?
Go slow, use plenty of lube, and relax your body. Starting with a smaller size helps make insertion more comfortable.

Are butt plugs safe?
Yes, when used properly. Choose body-safe materials, always use a flared base and keep it clean.

Do men wear butt plugs?
Absolutely! Many men enjoy them for pleasure, especially because they can stimulate the prostate.

How long can you leave a butt plug in?
Generally, 1–2 hours is safe for most people. Listen to your body, and never wear one for extended periods without breaks.

What is a butt plug?